“The things you are passionate about are not random, they are your calling.”
~ Fabienne Fredrickson, Founder of Boldheart
Fact: Multiple people can feel passion for the same things.
Fact: The wine world has been very warm, and welcoming to me.
Fact: Throwing shade at someone will always keep you from shining your own light.
A friend recently revealed themselves to be someone whom I needed to create distance from in the interest of self-preservation and against their intention to cause harm. It has left me managing emotions of sadness that things needed to change between us, not to mention frustration, disappointment and vulnerability.
Be it with yourself or in relationships with others, real honesty has power that only few can handle and few actually practice. But the payoff of honest living is greatly liberating when its your core value. I hated to admit to myself that I was wrong about the character of this friend, but doing so has allowed me to make the adjustments needed to protect my personal space and maintain the energy to move forward and through.
What lingers heavy on me is this: when your light is showing, the igniting of your passion is warm and magnetic. That warm magnetism attracts many “experience-goers” seeking to draw from it. Ideally, this should be an exchange, an edification, a beautiful symposium.
And yet friends, understand this: drawing from your light and taking from you and stealing it from your very hands are two extremely different things. Who is in your circle, warming their hands with your fire? Who has entered the doors of your proverbial home and come to take, rather than give? When you stop and examine, it becomes evident which relationships are healthy and which should be minimized.
It’s taken me several weeks to process this event, detach from expectation, and realign my subconscious order of how to approach my wine path. I confess a moment of wanting to give up because the incidents involving the person who this is about – took that much from me. Bouncing back from dishonesty always requires lots of personal effort when I am met with such boldness, but in this case to thine own self I remain honest – and true. This endeavor, is still mine.
“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ~ Oscar Wilde